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Jul 14, 20213 min read

Pieces of a Broken Heart

I was jolted out of a deep sleep at 3:00am. One ring, two rings, I rolled over, flipped on the light and answered the phone all before...

Jul 7, 20214 min read

What's In the Box?

Death, whether it was an anticipated event due to age or illness or whether it came as an unexpected event that caused cataclysmic chaos;...

Jun 30, 20213 min read

Fur Feathers or Scales

I was excited to read the study conducted by Joanne Cacciatore, Kara Thieleman, Ruth Fretts and Lori Barnes Jackson. The title was, What...

Jun 9, 20213 min read

Go Ahead, Lose Control

I have accumulated many books on the topic of grief. One of my newest books is a book of prayers. The title is Prayers of Honoring Grief...

May 26, 20212 min read

I Surrender

Whenever I hear the words, I surrender, a mental picture pops into my mind. The beaten foe in a Looney Tunes cartoon waving a stick with...

May 12, 20213 min read

The Rope Swing

Those of us that have experienced the death of someone whom we love often find ourselves suspended between two forms of living, the pain...

May 5, 20213 min read

Grief Is A Mind Game

“The present is a moment that we often occupy unmindfully. We often use it to simply bridge the gap between our memories and our hopes.”...

Apr 21, 20213 min read

Bless This Mess

The early days, weeks and months of grief are messy. There are no two ways about it. You may choose other ways to describe grief, but for...

Mar 24, 20213 min read

Peace in the Storm

We spend a lot of time and energy trying to manipulate ourselves, others and our circumstances into something we want, instead of finding...

Mar 17, 20213 min read

We've Got to Go Through It

We’re Going on a Bear Hunt, a children’s picture book written by Michael Rosen and illustrated by Helen Oxenbury. In the story, a dad...

Mar 10, 20214 min read

If Only

“I can’t believe I let him go. I should have made him stay home.” “I should have insisted she go to the ER.” “If only I wouldn’t have had...

Feb 17, 20212 min read

Grief and Grace

Grief and Grace When many of us experience the death of someone we love, for the very first time, we are bombarded with so many...

Feb 3, 20213 min read

Silence of Absence

“Nothing can make up for the absence of someone we love, and it would be wrong to try and find a substitute: we must simply hold out and...

Jan 20, 20213 min read

The Truth the Whole Truth

Deborah Adele, in her book The Yamas & Niyamas, repeated Carl Yung asking, “what is so dangerous in the moment about the truth that you...

Jan 13, 20213 min read

Becoming Real

The other day I was reading The Yamas & Niyamas, Exploring Yoga’s Ethical Practices written by Deborah Adele. I caught myself filtering...

Nov 25, 20202 min read

Inviting Breath Into Grief

What can I do to get through grief? I feel so out of control. I can’t think straight. Make this go away. I can’t breathe. Does any of...

Nov 4, 20203 min read

How are you?

Grief. A single word with so much meaning. The Mayo Clinic offers this definition of grief ( mayoclini.org 10/19/2016): A natural...

Oct 23, 20202 min read

Sacred Spaces

Honoring our grief is one of the most important aspects of our lives. By honoring our grief we are honoring our loved one and honoring...

Oct 22, 20202 min read

Linking Objects

"Pills Grandpa!" These two words make me smile. My dad had a certain medication he was required to take each day at the same time. To...

Oct 16, 20202 min read

Being With Grief

I will write often about "being with grief". Being with grief is hard, it's uncomfortable, and it's messy. Being with grief requires...